BESTSELF™ ICEBREAKER | Exposed 03

WHEN DO YOU FEEL MOST VULNERABLE?

Any time I'm in a situation where I feel unprepared or underprepared for the topic, or the people, or the expectation of me. It's not that I need a safety net, it's just nice to have one! I suppose vulnerability shows up for me whenever imposter syndrome has an opportunity to overwhelm me and sabotage my efforts. That's the bad side of vulnerable.

The good side of vulnerability has been experienced once in my life: when I was with Bill we allowed each other the space to be safely ourselves, the good, the bad, the challenging. I decided when we started our marathon conversations that I was going all-in. I told him that I would always show up for him and my love for him was unconditional. I was emotionally exposed more than I had allowed myself at any other time in my life. I was completely honest, holding nothing back and prayed that my feelings would be reciprocated. They were. Now that I've experienced it, I know one thing for sure: I don't think there is any other way to be in a giving, trusting and rewarding relationship. You have to be willing to show up exactly the person you are and hope that the other person is willing to accept all of it and give the same back to you. I know how fortunate I was and I'm grateful for the opportunity even though it didn't last nearly long enough. My wish for everyone is to experience what we had.