BESTSELF™ ICEBREAKER | Exposed 23

HOW DO YOU INTENTIONALLY UPSET OTHERS? 

It’s more likely that I’ll upset others UNINTENTIONALLY!

I’m no longer interested in anything but peace - for me, for you, for everyone. I’m sure there was a time when I might have paid enough attention to know what would upset someone but those days are long gone. They probably pre-date children (27 years ago), as once I had them, I had no time for anything else!

I will say, though, that I’m very good at causing unintentional harm or upset to others. It’s truly a gift. My kids will attest that sometimes I’ll say or do something to which they take tremendous offence. None was meant, but that doesn’t negate the reality. I do try to pay attention, but sometimes that just makes it worse.

I rarely, if ever, say anything to be competitive. If I convey a similar story it’s not to say my circumstance was better or worse, it’s to empathize, provide a safe place, and make you feel like you’re not alone. I’m long over the desire to keep up with anyone. I traded competition for gratitude. EVERYONE is doing the best they can with what they’ve got. There are some who are mean-spirited and I do my best to avoid engaging with their energy. You make your own life - I don’t have time to be cranky!