ICEBREAKER: WHAT IS YOUR PROUDEST ACCOMPLISHMENT?
No lie, there were times they were a challenge to raise by myself. (At 24, 23, 21 and 20 they still show up to challenge me, regularly.) I’m sure they’d have been harder to raise with a partner, so I actually count my blessings that I never had to consult someone else on what decisions were the right and wrong ones to make for each of them. All four are fiercely independent and have little in common except for their DNA – and even that shows up differently on ancestry.com! So far they are lovely adults, respectful and kind, not an entitled bone in their bodies though they were raised in suburban privilege.
GOING DEEPER: WHAT MISTAKES HAVE YOU LEARNED THE MOST FROM?
The biggest mistakes of my life were made when I didn’t honour what I wanted and knew was right for me. I regularly capitulated to the desires of others and suffered, like many, the “seen and not heard” manner of being raised. Everyone else knew better than I did. Not that my desires were ever a consideration. I do not dwell in the “what ifs” that are created by the many roads not taken, I simply wish I had had more of a say in my journey.