ICEBREAKER: WOULD YOU DESCRIBE YOURSELF AS AN EXTROVERT OR AN INTROVERT? WHY?
The definition I use to determine whether or not anyone is an extrovert or introvert is the answer to a simple question: how do you recharge? If it’s in a large crowd, you are an extrovert. If it’s in solitude, you are likely an introvert. I am a classic introvert and have to gear up to walk into a room filled with people, certainly if I’m alone. It takes a lot of preparation and depending on how big the event might be, I can take days to calm myself enough not to cancel completely. It surprises a lot of people that I suffer from this anxiety as I’m pretty outgoing and friendly and have been known to chatter away for hours if there is a topic I’ve warmed up to with a group of people who make me feel safe.
GOING DEEPER: WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME YOU HAD TO FORGIVE A FRIEND?
Wow, tough question. I can’t remember, certainly not recently. I surround myself with people I love and trust which results in little need for forgiveness. We treat each other with kindness and respect, consistently honouring boundaries. All I know about forgiveness is that it is more about taking care of yourself than the person who supposedly wronged you. Resentment and anger only builds and can only hurt the one who doesn’t forgive. That whole idea “holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die” is true. If there were ever a need to forgive, I would do so quickly.