ICEBREAKER: WHO HAVE YOU LOST TOUCH WITH BUT STILL WONDER ABOUT?
Growing up as a tomboy, I had many male friends. Some I’m still in touch with but there are two I’d love to find in order to hear their stories: lives and loves and everything. Renny Z (I have no idea how to spell his last name – Zelinski? Zwolinsky? Who knows?) The last time I saw him he had a broken leg and we went with another friend to see the premiere of Apocalypse Now back in 1979. Around the same era, a friend of a friend, Stacy Gottfried (again, not sure of the spelling) came with a big group us to the Police Picnic on the CNE grounds. That was the last time I remember seeing him. It was the end of summer 1982 and I was soon off to University not understanding how life would be forever altered.
GOING DEEPER: IS IT BETTER TO LET RELATIONSHIPS EBB AND FLOW IN AND OUT OF OUR LIVES OR INTENTIONALLY TRY AND MAINTAIN THEM?
I believe it’s better for ebb and flow. People grow and evolve at different paces. No one can control that progression and often it’s best to simply let the evolution of another happen while you witness it from a distance. Sometimes people grow together and sometimes they grow apart – and that’s okay. That saying that “everyone comes into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime” is, for me, true. I’ve learned profound lessons from people who didn’t stay long. That’s not to say that no effort should be made for those you enjoy spending time with, a phone call, lunch, text, whatever to keep in contact is always welcome. Tell those you love that you love them is always a good way to live your days.