ICEBREAKER: DO INTENTIONS MATTER MORE OR LESS THAN ACTIONS?
I grew up with the saying “the road to hell is paved with good intentions” as a primary tenet of our familial existence. It wasn’t enough to simply have an intention, there had to be an effective action (that resulted in a satisfactory conclusion) accompanied the intention as it wasn’t enough on its own. This is a regular challenge for me as I absorb and integrate my recent studies which all start with the idea that everything begins with intention. Intention is key to everything. This flips my entire foundation on its head. It is where I find the most resistance as I go deeper into my study of metaphysics and all things woo.
I have been convinced intention is the key. Intention does matter more because it provides context, direction and where your energy is going to be focused.
GOING DEEPER: WHEN IS IT OKAY TO NOT BE COMPLETELY HONEST?
The older I get the less I believe it is ever a good idea to lie – the truth always comes out. You don’t have to be mean about the truth, it’s not to be weaponized, but it is going to come out eventually. Which is worse? Ripping off the bandaid quickly or spend years knowing something and not sharing “to spare feelings”. What happens when the person you’ve been protecting finds out you’ve been lying by omission over the course of time. Isn’t it better to be there to hold space and help manage the truth in a kind and compassionate manner? I would rather hear the unvarnished truth. And because I prefer it, I provide it.
Now, on the other hand, to use an example I was raised with: “if a man with a bloody knife came to the door demanding to know where my daughters were, I would lie.” This was quickly followed up with that being the only reason to ever lie.