LIST 21 | List the people you compare yourself to.
“Comparison is the thief of joy” is an adage I adhere to every day. I don’t want to be like anyone else. I’ve worked too damned hard at becoming the woman I am today. There is no one like me! Thank god.
Now, what strong, independent women would I like to have in my circle of friends – who are not there already? In no particular order: Anne Lamott, Chrissy Teigen, Reese Witherspoon, Oprah, Julia Cameron, Brené Brown, Stacy Abrams, Bonnie Raitt, Alice Hoffman, Emma Thompson, Annie Leibovitz, Carol King, Arlene Dickenson, SARK … the list is well and truly endless. I am inspired to be better and show up more authentically by so many incredible women I will never have the joy to know in person, but I know them well enough through books, interviews, podcasts and online. My life is richer for their presence in it.
There are plenty of men who inspire me, too (of note: quote above is from Teddy Roosevelt whom I find incredibly encouraging.) But really I would never compare myself to a man, nor would I want to emulate a man in any way. I can love their words and concepts, but I generally don’t want them around to mansplain their ideas. That sounded bad. I love men. I really do. I’ve raised two! I’ve lost one. I simply like the idea of being inspired by a group of people who have a shared experience that transcends race, socio-economics, education – a group who share the experience of gender.
I compare myself to no one. Do you?