WHEN DO YOU FEEL MOST VULNERABLE?
Any time I’m in a situation where I feel unprepared or underprepared for the topic, or the people, or the expectation of me. It’s not that I need a safety net, it’s just nice to have one! I suppose vulnerability shows up for me whenever imposter syndrome has an opportunity to overwhelm me and sabotage my efforts. That’s the bad side of vulnerable.
The good side of vulnerability has been experienced once in my life: when I was with Bill we allowed each other the space to be safely ourselves, the good, the bad, the challenging. I decided when we started our marathon conversations that I was going all-in. I told him that I would always show up for him and my love for him was unconditional. I was emotionally exposed more than I had allowed myself at any other time in my life. I was completely honest, holding nothing back and prayed that my feelings would be reciprocated. They were. Now that I’ve experienced it, I know one thing for sure: I don’t think there is any other way to be in a giving, trusting and rewarding relationship. You have to be willing to show up exactly the person you are and hope that the other person is willing to accept all of it and give the same back to you. I know how fortunate I was and I’m grateful for the opportunity even though it didn’t last nearly long enough. My wish for everyone is to experience what we had.
I enjoy answering tough questions if for no other reason to challenge myself to dig deep and tap into what I know to be true to my core, for me, no bullshit; and, I want to encourage others to show up and answer their own tough questions. In the midst of packing and moving in mid-October 2020, I got an email from BestSelf™ about an ICEBREAKER “Deeper Talk” deck. A deck? Hello? I’m IN! This deck contains 150 questions split across 6 different categories: Beliefs, Courage, Dreams, Exposed, Life Lessons and Self-Awareness. How tough can it be? We’re about to find out. 150 weeks of answers. (I’m so much better with giving the answers than asking the questions.) I do hope you share your answers with me! #letshaveaconversation #deepertalkdeck
“THE ART OF CONVERSATION IS THE ART OF HEARING AS WELL AS OF BEING HEARD.” – William Hazlitt