I don’t always follow a plan, but I do like to start anything new with a framework. My usual “new year” starts in September but this year my September was chaotic which ran into a full October which became the malaise of November that gave way to the not enough time in the days of December.
I subscribe to Breathe magazine (among too many others) and there was a special edition 52-week journal with some really good questions. They were posed to realize ambitions and make plans for the future. Let’s see how it goes!
What are my goals?
My primary goal is to finish the SFD of my novel. Once it’s done then I can edit and refine to the point where it can be sent out to an agent or publisher. Beyond that, I have a few goals: I’ve made arrangements with Jackie to come over every Monday, Wednesday and Friday in an effort to make me both fit and flexible – and hey, maybe a bit of weight loss, too; I am going to get my new website with new photography products up and running and maybe consider making my new Sound Reiki® practice available along with my Desire Map knowledge and Oracle Guide qualifications (I may even add more); and, read more books similar to that I want to write – at least a book a month and if I’m lucky I’ll read more.
What are my dreams?
That a well-connected editor, encouraging agent or open-to-my-stories publisher will like my work and with support, encouragement and hard work my novel will become a best selling reality – I’m almost ready to move on to the other stories rattling around in my head. I’m also open to the idea of finding a “playmate” – a fun term learned at my Mastermind retreat – someone with whom to share experiences throughout the year. Other than that I believe my dreams have been realized.
What is my motivation?
I’m liking the idea of slow, really welcoming the pace experienced in Charleston, and want to live it through the year ahead. I want to be healthy and happy – mind and body. I’m making choices in alignment with my highest good and trust that the Universe wants to give me what I most desire. For myself, my kids, my family, my future grandchildren, I’m making choices to ensure I will be around for a good long time.
How do I want to feel?
I want to feel whole. I want to feel grateful. I want to feel safe. I want to feel supported. I want to feel cherished. I want to feel generous. (“Generosity can not exist without boundaries.” – Brené Brown) I want to feel excited at the prospect of every day.
What or who do I need for support?
I’m blessed with great friendships and a great family. So many women and men who are willing to lend an ear and give good advice – but mostly we laugh. We laugh a lot. I am so fortunate, and grateful.
How can I make a difference?
I live an authentic life and encourage others to do the same. I am collecting the tools that resonate with me to make a powerful difference in my life and that of my family, friends and clients. The difference I make is by regularly showing up with a realistic attitude, a heart full of gratitude and knowing that I live in a loving and supportive universe, I know for certain that what is meant to be will be. There is no right or wrong. I live my truth and have no issue broadcasting it here, on the blog. It’s important for me to be me. I like me and it took a long time getting here and I hope my stories can encourage others to do the same.
What do I want to learn?
How to make jewellery with crystals. I have a few ideas for design. I want to infuse necklaces, earrings, bracelets and rings with intention and meaning as well as beauty and function. I’m also thinking of learning complementary modalities to the woo I already know (astrology, Sound Reiki®, oracle cards, dousing, meditation, journaling, even photography). Catherine Varga’s SoulChild™ Alignment Method training and Danielle LaPorte’s Fire Starter Practitioner training are the most appealing and, of course, anything Colette Baron-Reid offers!
What can I let go of?
Limiting beliefs – the story I tell myself that I am not enough, that I am not worthy of the life I desire, that I’m not the right weight/shape for a partner, that no one wants to read my stories, that I am not creative, that I should behave and sit down and shut up.
Which new activity would I like to try?
Pickleball. I tried it a couple of years ago while at Canyon Ranch and the pro told me I had an aptitude for the sport. Maybe I should sign up over at the Oakville Club? We’ll see. I hope to play tennis again, I was ranked a lifetime ago and though I never want to be at that level, I’d like to play again for fun.
Where do I want to explore?
The waterfalls in the area have always fascinated me. I want to take a trip to Webster’s Falls and take it from there. It’ll be a nice combination of my love of photography and my efforts to move more. Sadly no dogs – I’m not coordinated enough to maneuver them, myself and my camera!
What projects do I want to complete?*
I want to focus on my home. We/I’ve lived here since January 09, 2015 (a little less than 4 years) and I’m still trying to get everything the way I want it to be.Over the next year, I want to systematically go from room to room organizing and purging – every cupboard, closet and drawer. I want everything in my home to have it’s place, ideally there will be no more piles of paper or books by the end of the year! While that is happening I want to (finally) fix my master bathroom (shower and sink faucets); replace my kitchen cooktop with a Thermadore range; rip up all the carpet and replace the second floor with hardwood. There are a few décor related items, too.
* I added this because it wasn’t in the original set of questions but it is definitely something to be included in the next 52 weeks.
How can I demonstrate kindness?
Acknowledge my first instinct but don’t act, react or talk on it immediately. Take the time to look at it from the opposite perspective. Only then act on it or put words to it. I am allowed to be slower to react to things and learn to respond with the positive first. I’m a natural critic (hello double Virgo) even though I always see the positive. I need to lead with the good.
What can I be more mindful of?
I have a sharp tongue and a dark sense of humour. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t. I need to be more mindful of the times it doesn’t work. Read the room better. I’m often quiet and observant. For some reason a lot of people find it off-putting and mistakenly interpret it as judgmental. I need to work on being more lighthearted when I’m out and about.
How can I take better care of my physical and mental health?
Simple: move more and meditate more. Consistently. Every effort is being made to make that a reality.
Which habit would I like to work into my routine?
I have dog walkers who come to the house twice a week. I’d like to re-incorporate taking the boys out the remaining five days for a big walk for fun. I was so fed up with the 6-10 walks each day when the back yard was being done over the summer. The walks stopped once I could just open the door to the backyard and have them do their business outside. Time to take them out more!
How can I bring more positive energy into my life?
This has me stumped. I have a good life – a very good life. How do I bring more positivity into it? The ONLY thing that gives me stress is when my kids bicker among themselves or snap at me. If that could stop my life would be blissful. That said, I can only control me and my effect on the world.
How can I reward myself?
Outsource. I reward myself with the gift of time: I go to the Oakville Club for dinner a couple of times a week – 2 sometimes 3 out of 21 meals made by someone else is a lovely reward; The Maids come once a week to bring my home back to order; Cedar Springs maintains the property by mowing the lawn, maintaining the weeding and plantings and a do a complete autumn and spring cleanup; and, Rick removes the snow and puts down salt before the snow arrives. I can’t imagine a better reward for me than having time consuming chores done by others. My plan going forward is to take advantage of the online grocery app. I’ll be sending 50% of my Fortino’s order online. The rest, the fresh, I’ll do by myself.
And there it is, a general guideline for 2019. I’ll be gentle with myself and anything that doesn’t get done will simply move onto the list for 2020. There is no right or wrong, good or bad.
What are you looking forward to incorporating into your life going forward?