What emerged over the month?
CONNECT. After months in self-imposed hybernation, I felt an unfamiliar desire to get out and connect in a way I haven’t felt in a very long time. Connect with friends. Check. Connect with passions and past times. Check. Connect with characters and stories. Check. Connect with the longing in my heart. Working on it!
What were the big and small victories?
I managed to participate in Susannah Conway’s #aprillove2016 all month long. Some old wounds were open in my effort to be completely truthful. I do believe I managed to surprise a few people. | At the World Accord Gala I secured box tickets to a Blue Jays vs Boston game in September. | I managed to find and hire a dog walker for Tucker. I was so concerned and now relieved! | I attended a watercolour class for the parents at the school and I wasn’t awful. I was awful. The class was great! | Attended the Blue Jays Home Opening Game – in the nosebleeds. It was time to give the kids some perspective. The accomplishment? I didn’t back out. Setback? See below. | A spontaneous visit to the Port Credit art show with my long-time friend, Julie. “Spontaneous” is relative, that means I got notice the week before. I am so happy to be the proud owner of a beautiful piece from an artist Julie loves and her reason for wanting to attend. | The Joshua Creek Heritage Art Centre has a ton of really interesting courses. My first one? Reading tea leaves! I think my Grampy (aka Big Hughie) would be proud. And yes, my reading was startlingly accurate and remarkably supportive. | My lunch with Lise lasted four hours and it was fabulous! TONS of laughter and fun. | Ceiling fans have been installed! I am beyond happy to have air circulating in my bedroom. | The crappy shelving from the furnace room has been removed and replaced with heavy duty shelving. Order has almost completely replaced the chaos! | I met Lisa over at the Kerr Street Café and enjoyed an all-too-quick catch up. She’s always got some place to go. | Caden went to the finals of the Persuasive Speech competition at school. His topic? Why cats make bad pets. | Chloé was asked to co-host (with a boy from SAC) the CIS Music Festival at Roy Thompson Hall. | Writing piece to Brian Henry. | Exam season was survived by those in University and the schedule came out for the youngers. |
What were the lessons?
It’s a miracle I can raise children and animals – I’m killing just about every house plant, ever. Except the African Violets and I’m sure it’s my long-passed Nanny taking care of them for me. | I started the month with a lot of home cooking – then my social life kicked in with a vengeance. Not so much cooking! | The Blue Jays Opening Game was to provide my kids with a less privileged perspective. OMG. My mind is still reeling from how awful it was. Drunken obnoxious disappointing. | I’ll shell out the extra bucks not to sit there again. | Delayed start to writing classes. By two weeks. Ugh. | I have always wanted to be a writer. I had no idea it was so unprofitable. | The annual invasion of midges have arrived in swarming clouds. As much as I anticipate Spring, I always forget about these clouds of bugs! | I have no words to express my sorrow over being commanded to go against my nature. I am being manipulated to appease the demands of those who have not earned my respect. My frustration is palpable. There has been a shift and it is very sad. | The revised name of my memoir: My View from Under the Bus. Argh. |
Self-care is paramount. To that end I’ve scheduled a spa day once a month: massage, waxing, pedicure and facial. I’ve also set up regular hair appointments and enjoy the shorter grayer hair. I am continuing with some of the Isagenix products, those that work for me – even the kids are enjoying their protein shakes in the morning. Daily walks with Tucker, now that the ice has melted, are fun. I plan to incorporate many of these ideas into my practice. Wabi Sabi? Yes! Morning Pages and Artist Dates have to make a reappearance! Plans are underway. My most favourite oracle deck is available for download! Now I don’t have to drag the deck with me everywhere, I have it with me all the time.
ENJOYING EVERYDAY LIFE
Great quote: “I never lose. I either win or learn.” Nelson Mandela
What we watched and enjoyed: The Ranch on Netflix with Ashton Kutcher and many other familiar actors was really, really good when it wasn’t really, really bad. I’m not a sit-com fan, but I am a fan of this show. The premise and setting is so believable – gritty and real. If they improve the writing it will be spectacular! | Finale night for the last American Idol with Trent Harmon winning. Big surprise! Good season. | For some reason my kids are watching the early seasons of Grey’s Anatomy – and enjoying them. | Honestly? I’m just waiting for May and Bloodline Season 2!
Book found in my truck for the inevitable parking lot reading: It’s Never Too Late to Begin Again is timely as I’ve been considering re-visiting Julia Cameron’s The Artist’s Way for 12-weeks over the summer. Instead I plan to visit the modified program offered in her new book.
Book found on my nightstand: I’m in the middle of a collection of Stephen Leacock stories, looking for some creative inspiration in the short story genre.
Music that had me moving and singing along: I really enjoy AltNation on SiriusXM and they simulcast the Coachella Music Festival. The PERFECT introvert way to attend concerts! It was a wonderful way to spend two weekends. GREAT music.
Weather: Holy smokes, everyone in the bubble went crazy when the snow arrived – and stayed a few days! It looks like the snow is gone for good and I’m happy for the brown grass to have turned a vibrant green.
RIP: Mid-month, I thought we might get through the month without losing someone with some impact in my life. That was not to be. Doris Roberts known by all from the sitcom Everyone Loves Raymond but I remember from Remington Steele was wonderful. Then Prince – a truly shocking and sad loss. He left us too soon, but grateful for what he left behind, so brilliant.
Unexpected: I spent four hours at lunch with my friend Lise. We went to Harper’s Landing on a Tuesday afternoon – because the food has greatly improved and they have a decent wine list. Personally, I love the space by the fireplace. Anyway. By the time we left at 4PM the place was filled up – business men everywhere. What am I missing? Hmm.
Discovery: No surprise that I am a huge Dr. Brené Brown fan. I forwarded this talk on TRUST to my kids, my sisters and my father. My dad liked it and sent a note in response. I was floored. Sadly, it turns out he didn’t understand what she was saying.
Exhale: The waiting is over and the desert surrounds me.
Online Courses: COURAGEworks Rising Strong with Brené Brown; Fierce Grace Collective with Carrie Anne Moss; Sacred Wheel Immersion with Allison Carr; The Sacred Alone and The Inside Story with Susannah Conway; Tell It with Liz Lamoreaux; One Little Word with Ali Edwards; and, FIT2016 with Cathy Zielske.
How was your April? What are you noticing in your life?