LIST 47 | List the nice things you do for others.
I really do not like the word “nice” ever since my Junior School Principal, Zena Firth, went on a rant about it when I was in grade 5. I prefer to consider the words “thoughtful” or “kind” or “considerate” so …
I’m pretty good at a few things. When there is an opportunity for me to do what comes easy to me, for those whom those same things do not come easy, THAT is what I do for others.
- I’m a good photographer and I’ve taken photos for friends who are not – their kids at a sporting event, a family photo, chosen images for their social media, etc.
- I’m a good writer and I’ve written copy for friends who need it and I edit essays for my children and their friends.
- Colour. I love colour and can look at something and walk into a paint store full of chips and pick the exact right shade needed. (White and black are not colours even though there are a bagillion shades of both!)
- I enjoy design and though sometimes I can’t do it myself, I did recently design a logo and website for a friend who found the whole process daunting.
- I know a lot of people and greatly enjoy connecting two seemingly incongruous personalities and witness a great business or personal partnership flourish and grow.
Other than that, there are a few recent acts that would be considered thoughtful:
- Amongst his things, I found meaningful notes that Bill had written some time ago and sent them off to the recipients, as well as a copy of the book they were tucked in. (After all, I couldn’t exactly throw them out and it felt weird to keep them.) I hope they bring comfort.
- I’ve always supported my friends and their entrepreneurial enterprises, that trend continues.
- I regularly yield to those who are clearly “late” or “in a hurry”. I used to be one of those. You need in, you’ve got it. No wave? Fine. You’ll learn.
- With help, for which I’m tremendously grateful, I’m putting plans together for a memorial bench to honour Bill. He wanted no ceremony, memorial or gravestone, and this will give those who love him a place to visit once his ashes have been given over to the bay.
- I have a varied skill set, traditional and untraditional training to help others navigate their lives through my own life experience, life coaching certification, Desire Map facilitation, oracle card reading, astrology, Sound Reiki and energy clearing, all kinds of tools for healing. I was always uncomfortable taking money from those who came to me from a place of suffering – I do charge for business coaching, though! I am delighted when I am able to counsel someone – give them insight and direction, book recommendations, a crystal, a mantra, some focus to help them heal themselves. (Then there is more practical advice: the contact information for a mediator/lawyer, realtor, medium, doctor, psychologist. I can provide that, too.) Every once in a while I dip into my well-honed bag of tricks to help a friend who needs a boost.
The most considerate thing I do? I say “yes”. And I show up.